Death: Managing the Seemingly Unmanageable

Coping with a Death of A Loved OneEffective ways on how to cope with life’s major changes are taught in books, therapy sessions, and even just by talking with people who have experienced it. While such learning methods are applicable for certain situations (i.e. giving birth, parenting, going through adulthood), there are other realities of life in which people don’t want to discuss let alone mention. Those realities, like end-of-life care and death, has to be discussed as early as possible to prepare both the patient and their family.

1. Communicate Openly noted that getting a patient in one of the hospice care services in your area is a huge step. Talking about the day your loved one leaves for good is another. The first step in doing this is to communicate openly. Death as a subject is not something people are comfortable to talk about, but needs to be discussed. Start communicating openly with the patient, your family members and even yourself.

2. Get the Papers Ready

Talking is one thing, and putting it on paper is another. Aside from wills and testaments pertaining to one’s wealth and properties, it is also important to put into writing agreements between family members and the patient themselves on issues such as resuscitation, power of attorney, and living care.

3. Let the Patient Decide (if capable)

Your loved one might be in hospice care, but for some, this doesn’t equate to their incapacity to make a decision. If applicable, always consult your loved one concerning decisions regarding their care and after-life wishes. After all, it is their life and it would be better to grant something their heart really wants.

No one would ever be ready when that unfortunate day comes. However, with the right preparations, you would be assured that your loved one’s wishes could surely be carried out.